Boyfriend won’t commit to a move-in date
Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship for two years with a man whom I love very much. We are both in our early twenties. I have a house. He lives with his parents and goes to school.
Last year, after living together for a few months because of COVID, I invited him to move in with me. It even took him five months to give me an answer as to whether he wanted it. It has now been eight months since he returned to his parents. He says he will “move in”, but will not agree to meet with me.
I have been bowled over by him for his family several times, and I know that is not something that will ever change. I wonder if we’re gonna last, or if I should take a step back in the relationship. – Seeingh signs in Maryuland
Dear flashy signs: If your boyfriend had wanted to live with you, he wouldn’t have gone back to live with his parents. If he wanted more of your company, he wouldn’t knock you down. Unless you are a masochist, this love affair with him won’t last, and you should DEFINITELY take a step back in the relationship, or step away from it altogether.
Dear Abby: I wonder how to deal with finding a hair in your food or on your plate while eating at home, or even while eating at a friend’s house? I try to prevent this from happening by gently pulling on my hair, pulling any loose ones, and brushing my sleeves and shoulders before I start cooking. However, once or twice a month my husband finds one and complains, sometimes loudly. Of course I’m not doing it on purpose! It embarrasses me and makes me feel horrible and defensive.
Should he mention it or let it go? If we were at a friend’s house, I know he wouldn’t say anything, and neither would I, for fear of embarrassment. – Moulting in Tennessee
Dear Shedding: Finding a foreign object in their food – whatever it is, can make someone lose their appetite. Because this happens “regularly,” consider preventing the problem as many professional chefs do when preparing food. Wear a hairnet, scarf or hat when cooking. Or maybe your husband should cook his own meals.
Dear Abby: We are part of a tight group of six couples who are having a great time together. Although our political philosophies and worldviews are different, we still have mature and stimulating discussions. The problem is, one of the couples doesn’t believe in the COVID vaccination. We would love to have a BBQ, but only with those of us who have been vaccinated. Is there a way to do this without hurting this couple’s feelings? – Read to socialize but
Dear Ready: It depends if they feel the same way when it comes to wearing masks and social distancing. Diplomatically discuss your concerns with this couple. It would be better than excluding them and having them discovered later.
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